Stress and Anxiety

Have you ever read before news regarding students had committed suicide because they had already stressed out? Nowadays, this kind of news had eventually become a natural phenomenon. This is because majority of the students are weak in coping with stress and anxiety. They thought that commit suicide is the best alternative to escape from stress and anxiety. However, it is really wrong to commit suicide just because of stress and anxiety.

Stress is unavoidable because it exists no matter at where or to whom. Some stress and anxiety are good for healthy and normal. It will encourage students to perform well and keep alert to the surrounding. Nevertheless, excessive of feeling stressful and anxious are bad for health. It can cause emotionally overwhelming and act as a barrier for students to think rationally.

Thus, it is very important to learn on how to cope with stress and anxiety. There are a number of ways which can help you to reduce stress. First, you can reduce your stress by listening to music. You can choose some of your favorite songs and download it into your iPod. You can just play the songs if you feel very stressful. As for me, this method seems to be very useful and powerful, because it really helps me a lot. Also, I feel more relax after listening to music.

Besides listening to music, you can also watch some movies. You can go to the cinema and watch some movies with your friends. You should choose some comedy movies because it makes you laugh. After you had watched the movies, you will seem to be more joyful and relax.

On the other hand, you can also seek help from doctors. You should explain to your doctor on your situation, so that they will know your condition. Some of the doctors will give you some medication which is effective for you to relieve stress and anxiety. Although medication can help you to reduce your stress, it is encourage learning to cope with stress rather than taking medicines.


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Lai Shu Tiing

The magic words are not magical anymore nowadays.

You know, 50 years back, society that time, take words seriously.
Not any normal words, but these words are known as "Magical Words".
They are " Sorry" and " Thank you"

I just got back from El Sanctuary Camp, and one of the things i learnt from the trainer is what i will tell you next.
This trainer, he is very unique. He actually listens every single word and pay attention to every single words. Not everyone can do that. He has patience.
He takes these two words seriously.
He said that these two words are magic as long as there is sincerity behind it.

Imagine, when someone truly appreciate something you have done, and that someone said to you, " thank you" with the eyes looking at you sincerely, what is your reaction?
We take it for granted.
Some of us just cannot express how happy we are to hear it and we hide it by taking that as a joke or something.

Face the fact, some of us get shy.

Just that nowadays, we just DONT take it serious anymore.
Do we say thanks to the the cleaning lady in our college?
Do you say HI to the secuirty guards? Or at least give them your smile?

Imagine if all of us take the word seriously,
Dont you think the world may become more beautiful with all the forgiveness and appreciation?
Make it back as magical words with sincerity.

-Chong Cheng Yee

How To Improve Speaking Voice

Have you ever being attracted to the voice of the radio deejay, singer and phone operator? Most of them can speak very well with their pleasant voice. Thus, we are so passion and interested to listen to them. At the same time, some of us are very admire of them and deeply hope that we can also speak, just like them. Although some of us are not interested to become a radio deejay, a singer or even a phone operator, we still need to improve our speaking voice. This is because we may need to give a public speech or a seminar in the future for the career.
Therefore, I would like to share some ways to improve our speaking voice. First and foremost, we should practice breathing through your chest. As we know, most of us seldom breathe through their chest, instead they breathe through their throat. Breathing through throat will produce a high pitch voice, which most of us find that it is very irritating to hear a person who speaks with high pitch voice. As a result, in order to produce a lower pitched voice, we should try to adjust our breathing through chest.
Secondly, we should improve our voice pitch. The voice pitch for each of us is very different. Hence, we need to spend some time to find the perfect voice pitch. A lowered pitch voice will enhance our maturity and authority. Some of us may find it very difficult to accomplish both the breathing through the chest and the suitable voice pitch, therefore, practice is a must for every one of us.
Last but not least, we also need to improve our articulation. We need to improve how the words come out from our mouth, so that our voice will sound pleasant and the audience will not misunderstand our speech. In order to do so, we can practice through word twister. We can find some word twister which we find it very difficult and try to practice it. We must open our mouth widely and emphasize each vowel while speaking. By doing so, we can avoid phonemic problems.

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Lai Shu Tiing

Impromptu Speech

What is your first thought of mind when you are requested by someone to give an impromptu speech? Do you feel uneasy, stressful, and anxious or shock? Although you may have lots of feelings and emotions filling your mind, you are still require giving the impromptu speech and try to overcome your nervousness. Actually, we cannot predict when we are requiring giving an impromptu speech because it can take place in many different events, such as club meeting, family gathering, social event or classroom. Therefore, we should try to stay calm and do not stress out.

First, you need to grab a pen and a piece of paper. Next, you can start by brainstorming some ideas regarding to your topics. Due to time constraint, you may find it very difficult to think of many ideas in one goal. Thus, you need to jot down the idea that is suitable for your impromptu speech, so that you will not forget your ideas and repeat the same ideas. You are requiring jotting down the ideas in point form because the time given for your impromptu speech is limited. If you cannot think of more ideas, you can just write down your introductory sentence and concluding sentence.

Subsequently, you can start your speech by giving an introductory sentence. Your introductory sentence should include a brief introduction of your topics, so that the audience will understand your speech. Then you can begin with elaborating your ideas and giving supporting details for your topics as much as possible. During the speech given, you may need to concentrate on tone and diction. You must make sure your voice could be heard for the audience sitting far behind from you.

Last but not least, you must give an ending sentence for your speech. You can try to conclude it with a simple sentence. You must make sure your concluding sentence is good because it is very important.


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Lai Shu Tiing

The two most influential men in my life, besides my papa.

Dedicate this post to a special friend of mine in heaven for 6 years and also my ex boyfriend - H & A.
It is based on true life experience.

I decided to write this post, not because of i want your empathy or sympathy, but to share this feeling to you.
I cannot say this is related to the human communication subject, but i just want to share with you.

I knew these two boys. I cannot say they are men, because that time i was young, about 12.
I knew these two boys, namely H & A. We became real good friends, in fact buddies.
H, is always like a brother to me. I never felt this way before - so protective and feeling good around him. When i was young, i was really a tomboy. A, on the other hand, he is really a smart person. Until now, he is. He is total different man compared to others. I never seen such a person who can understand another person's feeling well.
Especially me.

When we three are together, we had fun, like real fun.
It was some how the best time in my life, now to think back.
At that point of my life, i thought these two boys would be my partners in life.

6 years ago from today, is the last day i saw H. He passed away due to a hit and run car accident.
I never get to say goodbye to him. I was young, i cried. but not many people noticed it.
I do not care, i am the type who hides, according to A.
Maybe, that is when i changed.
I changed to an emotional person.

Since then, we just sort of seperated.
We barely contact each other, me and A.
I remember, i could not attend the funeral due to some reasons.
A attended for me.
White lilies are specially dedicated to him. - to symbolize purity innocence.
A helped me to bring it to him.
since then, every year of this day, we would buy a single lily and dedicate to him by throwing it to the sea. ( it is some sort of "tradition" H's family, A and me keep. )

Then years passed by.
When i was form 4, A came back to me one day - He migrated to UK.
after a long wild goose chase, i agreed to be with him.
Our relationship lasted for less than 3 years- he was not here all the time.
I thought i was madly in love with him - i thought he was the one.
I had crush on him for quite a while, and so does he to me.
But we never made a step further than friends- H's death affected us all.
I even lost faith of God.

When A and I were together, we are not like normal couples.
We rarely do what a normal couples do. - watch movie, cling hands, or anything else.
Believe it or not, we like to stare each other. it was some inside joke.
But one thing he kept telling me, is that, i could not let go H yet.
His place in my life is to deep in my heart - too hard to get it out.
I thought, by loving A, would get rid of it.
I do not know what you want to call it, Love? Passion? Brother love?
I thought i loved A more than H, as i thought loved H as my brother.- and that is the truth, at first.
The beginning, yes i do love him as passionately in love with him.
But whenever H's death comes into my head, i got confused.
I was wrong about my feelings towards A and H.

And that was one of the reason i broke up with A.
I knew i cannot love A as i keep thinking if he is H.
A found a better girl than i am, namely Rachel.
I do not mind.
As long as people in my surroundings are happy.
Happy with themselves.

many people said i am being emotional of my relationships.
Truth is, i think it is best to be emotional rather than realistic.
If you are not emotional, then what is love in realistic?

Please be happy.
Now that i found another person in my life, even if i do not have him, i just want him to be happy.

That is the lesson i learnt from Hikaru.

Now i finally can move on, after 6 years of struggling with myself.
dedicate this song to H & A.



바람이 머문 그시간 조차
나에겐 너무 모자란걸
한번의 미소 마지막 인사
사랑합니다 그댈

시간에 지쳐도 사랑에 아파도
그시간 조차 추억이고
마지막 인사를 하네요
사랑합니다 사랑합니다

Fly away Fly away LOVE
Fly away Fly away LOVE
Fly away Fly away LOVE

내생에 단 한번의 사랑아 안녕

How to Win Him

One of the nonverbal communications is the body language. Body language is very useful because we can use it to send signals to other people. Besides, body language is much more powerful rather than the spoken words. If we want to grab someone’s attention or win someone’s heart, we can always use this powerful body language. On the other hand, every single body language will bring different meaning to people. That is why it is important to make sure that the messages you send do not bring confusion to other people and contradicted with what you had said.

Now, I would like to share some tips to win someone’s heart through different kind of body language. First, you can make eye contact with the person. By looking longer at him in the right time, you can easily catch the attention of the other person and you heart will start to pump faster than usual.

In addition, you can strike a pose that will catch his attention. You must make sure your posture is open and show appropriately what message you are sending. You can send signals to him that you are still available by doing a beautiful posture. Also, you can face directly to the person who interests you in a proper way.

Moreover, you can try to smooth your hair. When the person who you interest appears in front of you, you can try to smooth your hair to show that you want to look good when meeting with him and concern with how he looks at your appearance. Nevertheless, you should not overdo it because it will cause you to be vain and self-absorbed.

Furthermore, you can try to toy with your accessories and jewelry. By doing so, you are sending signals to show him that you need a company and you are ready for fun and adventure.

The most important things to be done are smiling. You can try to give a beautiful and attractive smile to him with twinkling eyes. A simple smile will make a person have good impression on you. When the other person gives back you a lovely smile shows that you are having a bigger chance to get involved into the romance.

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Lai Shu Tiing

What Would Men Do

Some of the guys feel very shy to express their love expression verbally, especially to girls who interest them. Therefore, they will try to use nonverbal communication which is the body language to show their inner feelings towards their dream girl. By doing so, their dream girl can get the love signals. On the other hand, there are various ways to show you are interested with that girl through different kinds of body language.

Now, I would like to share what guys will do to show that they are interested to you. First, they will glance at you in a much comparably longer time than any other person. They are very concern of your glance at him. Moreover, they will try to make eye contact with you. At first, they will try to avoid look directly at you, then they will try adjusting their position to glance at you in a correct direction. Hence, this shows that he want to get to know you better.

Also, they will try to have a minor body contact with you. They will touch your arm, hand or shoulder when they are having conversation with you. This is to shows that he is a friendly person who you can talk to. Besides, they will try to smooth their clothes and hair when meeting with you. This is to signals the other person that he wants to look better when he meets you and very concern with his appearance.

In addition, they will try to lean in toward you because they would like to have a closer relationship with you. Also, they will fondle their chain or cigarette because they hope to gain a more intimate relationship with you.

Furthermore, they will try to show his muscles by doing some appropriate gestures and hand movement. By doing so, they can show how masculine they are towards the girl. They hope the girl will admire and attract to his masculinity. Last but not least, they will try to lower their tone of voice in order to speak low. Thus, you can hear him better and create a space that only consist you and him during the conversations.

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Lai Shu Tiing