The two most influential men in my life, besides my papa.

Dedicate this post to a special friend of mine in heaven for 6 years and also my ex boyfriend - H & A.
It is based on true life experience.

I decided to write this post, not because of i want your empathy or sympathy, but to share this feeling to you.
I cannot say this is related to the human communication subject, but i just want to share with you.

I knew these two boys. I cannot say they are men, because that time i was young, about 12.
I knew these two boys, namely H & A. We became real good friends, in fact buddies.
H, is always like a brother to me. I never felt this way before - so protective and feeling good around him. When i was young, i was really a tomboy. A, on the other hand, he is really a smart person. Until now, he is. He is total different man compared to others. I never seen such a person who can understand another person's feeling well.
Especially me.

When we three are together, we had fun, like real fun.
It was some how the best time in my life, now to think back.
At that point of my life, i thought these two boys would be my partners in life.

6 years ago from today, is the last day i saw H. He passed away due to a hit and run car accident.
I never get to say goodbye to him. I was young, i cried. but not many people noticed it.
I do not care, i am the type who hides, according to A.
Maybe, that is when i changed.
I changed to an emotional person.

Since then, we just sort of seperated.
We barely contact each other, me and A.
I remember, i could not attend the funeral due to some reasons.
A attended for me.
White lilies are specially dedicated to him. - to symbolize purity innocence.
A helped me to bring it to him.
since then, every year of this day, we would buy a single lily and dedicate to him by throwing it to the sea. ( it is some sort of "tradition" H's family, A and me keep. )

Then years passed by.
When i was form 4, A came back to me one day - He migrated to UK.
after a long wild goose chase, i agreed to be with him.
Our relationship lasted for less than 3 years- he was not here all the time.
I thought i was madly in love with him - i thought he was the one.
I had crush on him for quite a while, and so does he to me.
But we never made a step further than friends- H's death affected us all.
I even lost faith of God.

When A and I were together, we are not like normal couples.
We rarely do what a normal couples do. - watch movie, cling hands, or anything else.
Believe it or not, we like to stare each other. it was some inside joke.
But one thing he kept telling me, is that, i could not let go H yet.
His place in my life is to deep in my heart - too hard to get it out.
I thought, by loving A, would get rid of it.
I do not know what you want to call it, Love? Passion? Brother love?
I thought i loved A more than H, as i thought loved H as my brother.- and that is the truth, at first.
The beginning, yes i do love him as passionately in love with him.
But whenever H's death comes into my head, i got confused.
I was wrong about my feelings towards A and H.

And that was one of the reason i broke up with A.
I knew i cannot love A as i keep thinking if he is H.
A found a better girl than i am, namely Rachel.
I do not mind.
As long as people in my surroundings are happy.
Happy with themselves.

many people said i am being emotional of my relationships.
Truth is, i think it is best to be emotional rather than realistic.
If you are not emotional, then what is love in realistic?

Please be happy.
Now that i found another person in my life, even if i do not have him, i just want him to be happy.

That is the lesson i learnt from Hikaru.

Now i finally can move on, after 6 years of struggling with myself.
dedicate this song to H & A.



바람이 머문 그시간 조차
나에겐 너무 모자란걸
한번의 미소 마지막 인사
사랑합니다 그댈

시간에 지쳐도 사랑에 아파도
그시간 조차 추억이고
마지막 인사를 하네요
사랑합니다 사랑합니다

Fly away Fly away LOVE
Fly away Fly away LOVE
Fly away Fly away LOVE

내생에 단 한번의 사랑아 안녕

How to Win Him

One of the nonverbal communications is the body language. Body language is very useful because we can use it to send signals to other people. Besides, body language is much more powerful rather than the spoken words. If we want to grab someone’s attention or win someone’s heart, we can always use this powerful body language. On the other hand, every single body language will bring different meaning to people. That is why it is important to make sure that the messages you send do not bring confusion to other people and contradicted with what you had said.

Now, I would like to share some tips to win someone’s heart through different kind of body language. First, you can make eye contact with the person. By looking longer at him in the right time, you can easily catch the attention of the other person and you heart will start to pump faster than usual.

In addition, you can strike a pose that will catch his attention. You must make sure your posture is open and show appropriately what message you are sending. You can send signals to him that you are still available by doing a beautiful posture. Also, you can face directly to the person who interests you in a proper way.

Moreover, you can try to smooth your hair. When the person who you interest appears in front of you, you can try to smooth your hair to show that you want to look good when meeting with him and concern with how he looks at your appearance. Nevertheless, you should not overdo it because it will cause you to be vain and self-absorbed.

Furthermore, you can try to toy with your accessories and jewelry. By doing so, you are sending signals to show him that you need a company and you are ready for fun and adventure.

The most important things to be done are smiling. You can try to give a beautiful and attractive smile to him with twinkling eyes. A simple smile will make a person have good impression on you. When the other person gives back you a lovely smile shows that you are having a bigger chance to get involved into the romance.

Compiled by,

Lai Shu Tiing

What Would Men Do

Some of the guys feel very shy to express their love expression verbally, especially to girls who interest them. Therefore, they will try to use nonverbal communication which is the body language to show their inner feelings towards their dream girl. By doing so, their dream girl can get the love signals. On the other hand, there are various ways to show you are interested with that girl through different kinds of body language.

Now, I would like to share what guys will do to show that they are interested to you. First, they will glance at you in a much comparably longer time than any other person. They are very concern of your glance at him. Moreover, they will try to make eye contact with you. At first, they will try to avoid look directly at you, then they will try adjusting their position to glance at you in a correct direction. Hence, this shows that he want to get to know you better.

Also, they will try to have a minor body contact with you. They will touch your arm, hand or shoulder when they are having conversation with you. This is to shows that he is a friendly person who you can talk to. Besides, they will try to smooth their clothes and hair when meeting with you. This is to signals the other person that he wants to look better when he meets you and very concern with his appearance.

In addition, they will try to lean in toward you because they would like to have a closer relationship with you. Also, they will fondle their chain or cigarette because they hope to gain a more intimate relationship with you.

Furthermore, they will try to show his muscles by doing some appropriate gestures and hand movement. By doing so, they can show how masculine they are towards the girl. They hope the girl will admire and attract to his masculinity. Last but not least, they will try to lower their tone of voice in order to speak low. Thus, you can hear him better and create a space that only consist you and him during the conversations.

Compiled by,

Lai Shu Tiing