Good Friends

Friends seem to be easily being found, on the other hand, a good friend is not easy to have. Not every one has a good friend. Sometimes, we may see some of the people have many friends, but none of them are their good and best friends. As a result, it is not easy to meet a friend who can eventually become your good friend.

Therefore, I would like to share some of the ways to be a good friend. First, a good friend will always spend time together. You can telephone, email or chat regularly with your best friends if you cannot meet face to face. You must make sure the conversation is meaningful and simple. They will feel very happy for your willingness to allocate some time from your busy schedule to communicate with them. During your holiday, you can spend some time to go out with your good friends. You can go for shopping or watch movies together.

In addition, you must always be there for your good friend in any situation. You should always show up in front of them no matter in a good or bad situation. If there is a celebration, you should be sincerely happy for them. Also, you can wish them deeply from your heart. They will feel very glad to have you as their best friends. A good friend will always accompany their best friends. They will lend a helping hand among one another. They will give full support and encouragement to each other, so that each of them will not feel alone.

Moreover, you will always focus on your good friend’s strengths rather than their weaknesses. You will be very proud of your friend for their strengths, such as good in academics and sports, caring and helpful, talented performers, and others. By doing so, your friendship will be strong and last longer.


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Group Discussion

Have you ever aware that group discussion is very important in our daily life as well as in the workplace? We always need to work in a team with other people. Therefore, we need to be able to communicate with others, so that we can accomplish our goals. Besides that, group discussion is also very vital in a group discussion session. Therefore, it is very crucial to be able to do well in a group discussion.

Now, I would like to share some of the ways to do well in the group discussion session. First, you need to be calm. You can try to take a deep breath in order to calm down. Also, you are not allowed to shout, on the other hand, you should make sure that other people are hearing to your ideas. Never try to shout at people to attract their attention.

In addition, you should also try to grab the opportunities for you to speak in a group discussion. You are not encouraged to give up speaking with others and do not ever let other people to ignore you.

Moreover, you can try to practice the group discussion session with your family and friends. By doing so, you can boost up your confidence and enhance your communication skills.

Also, you should do some preparation before going through a group discussion session. You are encouraged to read more about the current issue and do some research on it. In this way, you are able to answer the questions if it is latest news. You must make sure your answers are provided with a good reasoning.

Furthermore, you need to be flexible and open minded when others presenting their ideas. You should not be afraid to give a new ideas and perspectives although it is different from others.

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Please, fly me to the moon, Nat King Cole.

Dedicate this post to someone especially me. XD

Just this morning, i have many people told me this.
" Cy"
"yes?" I replied.
" You look abnormal."
" Sorry, what abnormal?"
"Why are you smiling like no one's business?"

yes, i have been smiling for God-Knows-Why for the whole morning.
most people think monday is the worst day of all days.
And they say it is abnormal for me to smile like this.

Well, i just realized.. Someone long time ago, told me this.
" Why do you have to show your down face, dearie? Your smile is very beautiful. Show me." a woman once told me.
I was looking back my photos one day ago. * i sealed my photos away in a box.*
Then a picture of me and my mother, i saw.
Then a picture of me and my two friends, i saw.

Then i ask myself. Why live life so dead, if you got something free to make yourself and others happy?
From those picture, i saw the real me. The really smilling me.
Not those fake smiles i have.

after a while, thinking, thinking, and thinking.
if a person could let go everything, and smile as if they have no worries, then that is what peace feels like, cause that person have learnt how to let it all go, including hatred and unforgiven.
If we can learn this, how to let ourself go, then give yourself an applause.

Live life happily, why waste time thinking bad things?

As for me, i just want to live in Nat King Cole's song, because this song told my unconsciousness something. I just feel so happy because i have all these feelings inside me, including falling in love, or heartbroken. That's how beautiful life is.



Listen to peace yourself.

-chong cheng yee

Long Distance Relationship

Have you ever heard people said that long distance relationship is the most difficult relationship to maintain among all the relationships? Besides, most of the people have the mindset that long distance relationship cannot last forever. However, in my point of view, long distance relationship is the most precious relationship. I strongly believe that a long distance relationship can last forever. Moreover, not every one can have the opportunity to have a long distance relationship.

Therefore, I would like to share some tips on how to maintain a long distance relationship. Effective communication plays a vital role in a long distance relationship. You must always keep in touch with your partner and make sure the conversation is meaningful.

In addition, you should always discuss your problems and thoughts with your partner. You should let him know what kind of problems you are facing recently. You can ask him to give you some opinion on your problems. By doing so, your partner will feel that he is very important in your life and you always need him to lend a helping hand towards you. Besides discussing your issue, you can also request him to share his problems with you. He will be very glad that you are caring of him.

Moreover, you can also have meals together twice a week. You can sit in front of the computer and turn on your web cam to have the meals together. You can share some of your views on the food. Although you are far apart from your partner, you can also watch him eating and sitting together to have meals.

Although you are far from your partner, you still can do some things together. You can listen to the same song and watching the same movie with your partner. You can imagine that your partner is beside with you.

Furthermore, you can give your partner a surprise. You can give a call in an unexpected time. He will feel very happy and special because you are willing to spend some time to talk to him. On the other hand, you can also visit him without telling him that you are coming. Lastly, you must not forget to say the three most important golden words to your partner.


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Stress and Anxiety

Have you ever read before news regarding students had committed suicide because they had already stressed out? Nowadays, this kind of news had eventually become a natural phenomenon. This is because majority of the students are weak in coping with stress and anxiety. They thought that commit suicide is the best alternative to escape from stress and anxiety. However, it is really wrong to commit suicide just because of stress and anxiety.

Stress is unavoidable because it exists no matter at where or to whom. Some stress and anxiety are good for healthy and normal. It will encourage students to perform well and keep alert to the surrounding. Nevertheless, excessive of feeling stressful and anxious are bad for health. It can cause emotionally overwhelming and act as a barrier for students to think rationally.

Thus, it is very important to learn on how to cope with stress and anxiety. There are a number of ways which can help you to reduce stress. First, you can reduce your stress by listening to music. You can choose some of your favorite songs and download it into your iPod. You can just play the songs if you feel very stressful. As for me, this method seems to be very useful and powerful, because it really helps me a lot. Also, I feel more relax after listening to music.

Besides listening to music, you can also watch some movies. You can go to the cinema and watch some movies with your friends. You should choose some comedy movies because it makes you laugh. After you had watched the movies, you will seem to be more joyful and relax.

On the other hand, you can also seek help from doctors. You should explain to your doctor on your situation, so that they will know your condition. Some of the doctors will give you some medication which is effective for you to relieve stress and anxiety. Although medication can help you to reduce your stress, it is encourage learning to cope with stress rather than taking medicines.


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The magic words are not magical anymore nowadays.

You know, 50 years back, society that time, take words seriously.
Not any normal words, but these words are known as "Magical Words".
They are " Sorry" and " Thank you"

I just got back from El Sanctuary Camp, and one of the things i learnt from the trainer is what i will tell you next.
This trainer, he is very unique. He actually listens every single word and pay attention to every single words. Not everyone can do that. He has patience.
He takes these two words seriously.
He said that these two words are magic as long as there is sincerity behind it.

Imagine, when someone truly appreciate something you have done, and that someone said to you, " thank you" with the eyes looking at you sincerely, what is your reaction?
We take it for granted.
Some of us just cannot express how happy we are to hear it and we hide it by taking that as a joke or something.

Face the fact, some of us get shy.

Just that nowadays, we just DONT take it serious anymore.
Do we say thanks to the the cleaning lady in our college?
Do you say HI to the secuirty guards? Or at least give them your smile?

Imagine if all of us take the word seriously,
Dont you think the world may become more beautiful with all the forgiveness and appreciation?
Make it back as magical words with sincerity.

-Chong Cheng Yee

How To Improve Speaking Voice

Have you ever being attracted to the voice of the radio deejay, singer and phone operator? Most of them can speak very well with their pleasant voice. Thus, we are so passion and interested to listen to them. At the same time, some of us are very admire of them and deeply hope that we can also speak, just like them. Although some of us are not interested to become a radio deejay, a singer or even a phone operator, we still need to improve our speaking voice. This is because we may need to give a public speech or a seminar in the future for the career.
Therefore, I would like to share some ways to improve our speaking voice. First and foremost, we should practice breathing through your chest. As we know, most of us seldom breathe through their chest, instead they breathe through their throat. Breathing through throat will produce a high pitch voice, which most of us find that it is very irritating to hear a person who speaks with high pitch voice. As a result, in order to produce a lower pitched voice, we should try to adjust our breathing through chest.
Secondly, we should improve our voice pitch. The voice pitch for each of us is very different. Hence, we need to spend some time to find the perfect voice pitch. A lowered pitch voice will enhance our maturity and authority. Some of us may find it very difficult to accomplish both the breathing through the chest and the suitable voice pitch, therefore, practice is a must for every one of us.
Last but not least, we also need to improve our articulation. We need to improve how the words come out from our mouth, so that our voice will sound pleasant and the audience will not misunderstand our speech. In order to do so, we can practice through word twister. We can find some word twister which we find it very difficult and try to practice it. We must open our mouth widely and emphasize each vowel while speaking. By doing so, we can avoid phonemic problems.

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Impromptu Speech

What is your first thought of mind when you are requested by someone to give an impromptu speech? Do you feel uneasy, stressful, and anxious or shock? Although you may have lots of feelings and emotions filling your mind, you are still require giving the impromptu speech and try to overcome your nervousness. Actually, we cannot predict when we are requiring giving an impromptu speech because it can take place in many different events, such as club meeting, family gathering, social event or classroom. Therefore, we should try to stay calm and do not stress out.

First, you need to grab a pen and a piece of paper. Next, you can start by brainstorming some ideas regarding to your topics. Due to time constraint, you may find it very difficult to think of many ideas in one goal. Thus, you need to jot down the idea that is suitable for your impromptu speech, so that you will not forget your ideas and repeat the same ideas. You are requiring jotting down the ideas in point form because the time given for your impromptu speech is limited. If you cannot think of more ideas, you can just write down your introductory sentence and concluding sentence.

Subsequently, you can start your speech by giving an introductory sentence. Your introductory sentence should include a brief introduction of your topics, so that the audience will understand your speech. Then you can begin with elaborating your ideas and giving supporting details for your topics as much as possible. During the speech given, you may need to concentrate on tone and diction. You must make sure your voice could be heard for the audience sitting far behind from you.

Last but not least, you must give an ending sentence for your speech. You can try to conclude it with a simple sentence. You must make sure your concluding sentence is good because it is very important.


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The two most influential men in my life, besides my papa.

Dedicate this post to a special friend of mine in heaven for 6 years and also my ex boyfriend - H & A.
It is based on true life experience.

I decided to write this post, not because of i want your empathy or sympathy, but to share this feeling to you.
I cannot say this is related to the human communication subject, but i just want to share with you.

I knew these two boys. I cannot say they are men, because that time i was young, about 12.
I knew these two boys, namely H & A. We became real good friends, in fact buddies.
H, is always like a brother to me. I never felt this way before - so protective and feeling good around him. When i was young, i was really a tomboy. A, on the other hand, he is really a smart person. Until now, he is. He is total different man compared to others. I never seen such a person who can understand another person's feeling well.
Especially me.

When we three are together, we had fun, like real fun.
It was some how the best time in my life, now to think back.
At that point of my life, i thought these two boys would be my partners in life.

6 years ago from today, is the last day i saw H. He passed away due to a hit and run car accident.
I never get to say goodbye to him. I was young, i cried. but not many people noticed it.
I do not care, i am the type who hides, according to A.
Maybe, that is when i changed.
I changed to an emotional person.

Since then, we just sort of seperated.
We barely contact each other, me and A.
I remember, i could not attend the funeral due to some reasons.
A attended for me.
White lilies are specially dedicated to him. - to symbolize purity innocence.
A helped me to bring it to him.
since then, every year of this day, we would buy a single lily and dedicate to him by throwing it to the sea. ( it is some sort of "tradition" H's family, A and me keep. )

Then years passed by.
When i was form 4, A came back to me one day - He migrated to UK.
after a long wild goose chase, i agreed to be with him.
Our relationship lasted for less than 3 years- he was not here all the time.
I thought i was madly in love with him - i thought he was the one.
I had crush on him for quite a while, and so does he to me.
But we never made a step further than friends- H's death affected us all.
I even lost faith of God.

When A and I were together, we are not like normal couples.
We rarely do what a normal couples do. - watch movie, cling hands, or anything else.
Believe it or not, we like to stare each other. it was some inside joke.
But one thing he kept telling me, is that, i could not let go H yet.
His place in my life is to deep in my heart - too hard to get it out.
I thought, by loving A, would get rid of it.
I do not know what you want to call it, Love? Passion? Brother love?
I thought i loved A more than H, as i thought loved H as my brother.- and that is the truth, at first.
The beginning, yes i do love him as passionately in love with him.
But whenever H's death comes into my head, i got confused.
I was wrong about my feelings towards A and H.

And that was one of the reason i broke up with A.
I knew i cannot love A as i keep thinking if he is H.
A found a better girl than i am, namely Rachel.
I do not mind.
As long as people in my surroundings are happy.
Happy with themselves.

many people said i am being emotional of my relationships.
Truth is, i think it is best to be emotional rather than realistic.
If you are not emotional, then what is love in realistic?

Please be happy.
Now that i found another person in my life, even if i do not have him, i just want him to be happy.

That is the lesson i learnt from Hikaru.

Now i finally can move on, after 6 years of struggling with myself.
dedicate this song to H & A.



바람이 머문 그시간 조차
나에겐 너무 모자란걸
한번의 미소 마지막 인사
사랑합니다 그댈

시간에 지쳐도 사랑에 아파도
그시간 조차 추억이고
마지막 인사를 하네요
사랑합니다 사랑합니다

Fly away Fly away LOVE
Fly away Fly away LOVE
Fly away Fly away LOVE

내생에 단 한번의 사랑아 안녕

How to Win Him

One of the nonverbal communications is the body language. Body language is very useful because we can use it to send signals to other people. Besides, body language is much more powerful rather than the spoken words. If we want to grab someone’s attention or win someone’s heart, we can always use this powerful body language. On the other hand, every single body language will bring different meaning to people. That is why it is important to make sure that the messages you send do not bring confusion to other people and contradicted with what you had said.

Now, I would like to share some tips to win someone’s heart through different kind of body language. First, you can make eye contact with the person. By looking longer at him in the right time, you can easily catch the attention of the other person and you heart will start to pump faster than usual.

In addition, you can strike a pose that will catch his attention. You must make sure your posture is open and show appropriately what message you are sending. You can send signals to him that you are still available by doing a beautiful posture. Also, you can face directly to the person who interests you in a proper way.

Moreover, you can try to smooth your hair. When the person who you interest appears in front of you, you can try to smooth your hair to show that you want to look good when meeting with him and concern with how he looks at your appearance. Nevertheless, you should not overdo it because it will cause you to be vain and self-absorbed.

Furthermore, you can try to toy with your accessories and jewelry. By doing so, you are sending signals to show him that you need a company and you are ready for fun and adventure.

The most important things to be done are smiling. You can try to give a beautiful and attractive smile to him with twinkling eyes. A simple smile will make a person have good impression on you. When the other person gives back you a lovely smile shows that you are having a bigger chance to get involved into the romance.

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What Would Men Do

Some of the guys feel very shy to express their love expression verbally, especially to girls who interest them. Therefore, they will try to use nonverbal communication which is the body language to show their inner feelings towards their dream girl. By doing so, their dream girl can get the love signals. On the other hand, there are various ways to show you are interested with that girl through different kinds of body language.

Now, I would like to share what guys will do to show that they are interested to you. First, they will glance at you in a much comparably longer time than any other person. They are very concern of your glance at him. Moreover, they will try to make eye contact with you. At first, they will try to avoid look directly at you, then they will try adjusting their position to glance at you in a correct direction. Hence, this shows that he want to get to know you better.

Also, they will try to have a minor body contact with you. They will touch your arm, hand or shoulder when they are having conversation with you. This is to shows that he is a friendly person who you can talk to. Besides, they will try to smooth their clothes and hair when meeting with you. This is to signals the other person that he wants to look better when he meets you and very concern with his appearance.

In addition, they will try to lean in toward you because they would like to have a closer relationship with you. Also, they will fondle their chain or cigarette because they hope to gain a more intimate relationship with you.

Furthermore, they will try to show his muscles by doing some appropriate gestures and hand movement. By doing so, they can show how masculine they are towards the girl. They hope the girl will admire and attract to his masculinity. Last but not least, they will try to lower their tone of voice in order to speak low. Thus, you can hear him better and create a space that only consist you and him during the conversations.

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BESTFRIENDS

Bestfriend are the most important person in our life besides our lover and family. They are people that we can self-disclose with. Anyhow, these people can sometimes pissed us off. and you feels that you are not important in their life anymore. You feels hopeless and sometimes annoyed by her complaint and everything. besides, you are tired of your bestfriend acting like you are not uo to scratch when he often walks all over you.

why not you try these :-

*Writing her a letter telling her how hurtful you are of the things that she done to you. Other than that, you can list down all the thoughtful things that you have done to her that prove what a good friend you are.

*Discussing it when calm. She just said something really rude and totally insensitive about something. Hold your breath and count to 10 or 15 or whatever number you want and try talk to her. But you must wait untill you calm otherwise you will lose your temper.

*telling her straight and explain how this is making you feel.

* Wishing her to change.If you have come clean and she still thinks she can behave however she wants and you'll just put up with it then sop returning her calls and slowly distance from the friendship

IZYAN ARINA MAZLAN
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The LOVe

Have you ever deeply fall in love with someone?and it feels like you in your own world. The love between your partnes never dies off. That's is Eros Love.What a unique name for love. Meaning of eros is the God of love or a sexual desire. It refers to the romantic that has tremendous passion, phyiscal longing, deep intensity and intimacy.
i wonder when can i get this kind of love in my life??huhu~

IZYAN ARINA MAZLAN
B0901417

Gesture

When we are communicating with people, especially during presentation we always love to gesture to express our feelings and thoughts. However, did you gesturing appropriately while you are speaking?

Now, I would like to share some rule of thumb for gesturing during presentation. First, you should not plan and rehearse your gestures while speaking with the audience. If you just plan your gesture and insert it while communicate, then you will be just acting like a robot. Hence, you just need to relax and let the gestures happen.

Next, you can videotape yourself and check whether you have always doing some annoying gestures while speaking. By doing so, you can spot some gestures which you find very annoying and you love to do it while speaking. Consequently, you can try to eliminate those gestures.

In addition, you should not try to imitate other speakers. You should use gestures which are appropriate for you because how you gesture is depend a lot on your personality and communicating style.

Furthermore, you should try to gesture visibly especially facing with a large amount of audience. You can try to adjust your gestures while speaking with many audiences, so that they can see it and catch your attention. In this way, it can enhance your presentation and audience will feel comfortable while watching you presentation.

Moreover, you should put your best face forward. You can show some facial expression according to your mood while you are speaking to the audience. Hence, you can try to videotape yourself and try to detect your facial expression while giving a talk.

Last but not least, you should move away the lectern. You can try to stand in a place which you feel free to gesture and comfortable and the audience can see you and hear you.

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Sign of Confident

Have you ever experience of lacking confident while giving a presentation? Do you want to try to enhance your confident while speaking? As we know, confident is so important in our life, therefore we should make good use of it.

Now, I would like to share some ways to detect whether the person you are speaking lack of confident or not. First, you can see their posture. Confidence people will always standing tall with their shoulders back.

Next, you can try to watch their eye contact with you. Did they maintain a good eye contact with you or they just try to avoid looking at you while speaking? Confidence people will always try to have a good eye contact with you. Also, they will show you a smiling face which you will eventually find comfortable and likable to speak with them.

In addition, you can also try to watch their gestures while speaking. Are their gestures too tight or wide? Are they doing some gestures which you find very annoying? For those who are confident, they will gestures their hands and arms with kind of purposeful and deliberate.

Furthermore, you can try to listen to their tone of voice. Are they high or moderate? People who are full of confident will always speak with a moderate or slow of voice. You will feel very comfortable while listening to them.

Last but not least, you can try to listen to their speech. Are they speaking too fast or too slow? People who are lack of confident will speak very fast because they hope to end the conversation as soon as possible. As for people who are full of confident, they will speak slowly, so that you can listen very clearly to them.

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Shaun Evaristo & Lyle Beniga

Recently, one of my favorite idols, Tae Yang, came out his new digital single called " where u at".
It is a good song, try googling it up. =D
However, i was told that the dance choreography was not only by TaeYang, but also along with two extremely famous dancers from the States, Shaun Evaristo & Lyle Beniga.
Hence, having my own dancing spirit, i youtubed them.

Heck, why did not i know them before TaeYang?
I like to observe choreography. For me, dance is one of the ultimate weapon to communicate.
Try asking a girl for a dance. =D

Shaun Evaristo and Lyle Beniga is famous for their rhythmic dance choreography.
They dance, not only through the rhythm of the song, but also with the lyrics.
Watch the one below. It is one of Shaun Evaristo's choreography.



Could you hear the lyrics and see the dance steps?
He danced through his heart , feelings and soul.
Yes, he is a good dancer, but it is not everyone to be able to dance solely through feelings.
Not all are able to do so.
Most dance choreography, especially the famous performances, are based only on rhythms and not much on soul and feelings.

Well, body is also a tool to tell. to talk. to observe.
If you cant talk, use your body.
well, most people are used to their culture about the sensitivity of touch.
However, if you ask beforehand, that is a different case.
Every movement counts just like how when we speak, every single word counts.
Once done, is never to retrieve back.

From dancing also, you can judge what is their relationship.
take them as example.
Lyle Beniga & Shaun Evaristo


From the dance, you can see how neat and powerful the dance is.
You can say that these two have really good build up relationship OR you can say that they have real raw talent.
But , i do not believe that a good dancer comes solely based on talents. It is all about practice.
Dance can get to build relationship up.
Try that everyone.

Then within a month or so time, these two have to collobrate with Taeyang as he invited them in. In that one month time, Taeyang who is a korean, is able to produce out a fantastic result with the two of them. Taeyang's English was not bad. However, when you meet a person who is a total different culture, at the first sight, there might be a bit of gap.
However, dance brought them together.
It is the interest and passion they have, they made into this wonderful dance.

lastly, present you, what TaeYang and the two famous dance choreographer have done.

TaeYang - Where U At


-Chong Cheng Yee

Lying

Sometimes, when we are communicating with someone else, we find out that their verbal language is contradicted with their nonverbal language. However, you are not sure that are they lying to you. You feel very awkward when you are facing this situation. You just do not want to listen to them yet; you just tune off and want to escape from them.

Now, I would like to share some typical signs and signals when a person is lying. First, there will be little or no eye contact with you. They will try to avoid you because they do not want to look and have eye contact with you. There may also have rapid eye movement. Their eyeball will move left or right constantly.

Secondly, their breathing rate will increase rapidly. You can easily detect this abnormal feature because they will breathe very fast. At the same time, their complexion will change especially their face and neck. Their face and neck will gradually turn red.

Subsequently, their perspiration will increase. They will be sweating in a large amount and very nervous. Their voice tones will be change by changing in pitch, throat clearing and stammering.

Most importantly, their body will turn away from you and they will show some unusual body gestures. Their fingers will place in front of their mouth while speaking to you. If you notice these kinds of features, they may most probably lie to you. However, you should not avoid them; instead, you should ask them more questions and try to observe them whether he or she is a trustworthy person.

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How to be a Good Leader

Recently, we are handling with loads of group assignment. As we know, in a group assignment, someone will be appointed to be the leader of the group. However, not every one is a good leader because it requires sufficient leadership skills and techniques. Therefore, do you want to be a good a leader, so that your followers will respect and admire you?

Now, I would like to discuss what the criteria to be a good leader are. First, you must know your team. You can ask your team members to introduce themselves. Through introducing themselves, you can know what their interest is and what kind of personality they are. Are they an interpersonal or intrapersonal? At the same time, you also need to socialize with them. You can invite them to have a drink with you, so that your team members will feel that you are an easy going person. Moreover, you should meet your team regularly, so that they are more comfortable to get along with you. They will understand and know you better.

In addition, an effective communication is very important. You have to communicate constantly with your team because your team member will not know what you are doing and thinking. They need your clear and direct instruction from you. You can communicate with them, through computer-mediated communication and also face-to-face communication. By doing so, you will find that your work can be done more easily. Besides giving instruction to them, you also need to listen to them because they may also have some suggestions and comment on the matter. You must able to accept honest criticism and take into account into it. You can try to make some changes on you attitude and behavior. By doing so, your team will appreciate your kindness and effort you made.

Furthermore, you must be on time when you are having meeting with them. They do not like to wait for you. You should try to make your meeting to be short, so that your team members can concentrate better. Also, you need to delegate the work to your other team members. You should not do it all by your own. You should trust them that they can do better. You must give them chance to try to work on it. A simple thank you is also very crucial in doing a group work. The words, ‘thank you’ will make people feel better and happy. As a result, you should thank constantly to your team members.

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Fix yourself

Song of the post : Coldplay - Fix you
Note : it was this song inspired me to write this post.
Dedicated to someone.

When you are stressed, what do you do?
When your friend is stressed and he has a get-off-i-got-work look, what do you do?
What if you need to say something important to that person, do you go to him and say? Or shut up and wait for next time?

I am saying that, when we are stressed, we are less likely to be conscious of what we are doing. Maybe not all of us, but most of us do. We tend to be annoyed when it irritates you. We tend to scream to the person. We tend to tighten our fists. We tend to smash whatever we are holding.
Do you want the person beside you to get sad because you are stressed an let your anger out?

We never know what we will do, when we are stressed.
We do not pay much attention to what our face do and our language say.
We unintentionally spit all the anger out to whoever or whatever is near to you.

Do you feel stress?
If you do, do yourself a favour.
Run.

Run the whole office.

Run the whole floor.

Run from the HELP Main entrance to DSA.

Run back and forth to Main entrance to DSA.

Run from the first floor to second floor using stairs.

Run from the second floor to the third floor using stairs.

Run from the third floor to the top of the building.

Run up to down.

Run outside the building.

Run as if there is no tomorrow.

Run as if you can run faster than Forest Gump.

Run as if the monsters are coming after you.

Run and do not bump into anything.

Set yourself free by running.

Set your mind free.

Never look back.

After you have done running, go back, and face the challenge with that heart.

The heart of being fixed.




-Chong Cheng Yee

Overcoming Low Self Esteem

Self esteem is very important in our daily life because it is how important you think you are but not other people. Some people with high self esteem believe in their own abilities and capabilities. They believe that they can achieve their goals. However, people with low self esteem do not think they are valuable and their self worth is very low. As a result, they become very timid and fearful.

This showed that there is a big different between people with high self esteem and low self esteem and how self esteem can become barrier in your life. Therefore, it is important to overcome your low self esteem. There are several ways to overcome low self esteem, such as self examination. People who are brought up in a negative environment are more prone to have low self esteem. Thus, it is advisable not to look at your past, instead look at the present. You should start to self-examine your attitudes, behaviors, emotions, responses and thoughts.

Moreover, you should change your thinking pattern. You can list down you achievements and successes in the past and use it to encourage yourself. In this way, it can encourage you to think in a positive way. Besides, you should stop thinking thoughts and images that are bothering you and instead, you should replace it with an inspire picture and positive words.

In addition, you should take some effort to monitor how you talk. The way you speak will affect your self esteem. People with low self esteem always love to say that they are not good enough when communicating with others and this believe causes to affect their emotion and then their action. Hence, you should eliminate the negative thoughts and replace it with a good and positive affirmation.

Furthermore, you should have firm decisions. Every one of us has our own choice to become a person with healthy and high self esteem and vice versa. If you take the action to build your self esteem, eventually you will regain your dignity and pride and you will like yourself much more than others.

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Lai Shu Tiing

How to Improve Your Verbal Communication Skills

Although nonverbal communication has made up a large percentage of our daily interpersonal communication, we should not overlook the important of verbal communication. Verbal communication is so crucial in our daily life because we always use it as a tool for communication with people around us. However, not every person is good in it. As a result, a lot of miscommunication happens among one another and many of us do not take action to correct our mistakes even though we are aware that we had made a mistake. Therefore, I would like to take this opportunities encourage each of every one of us to take actions to improve our verbal communication skills.

There are several ways to improve your verbal communication. First and foremost, you can use positive words to challenge your limiting beliefs. The words you use to express your thought will determine how your emotion is. Next, you can tell or narrate a story before you want to get people’s attention. You can do so by telling some jokes or narrate a story as well as reading a quote. People will feel comfortable to talk to you after you tell or narrate a story. Besides, people will feel relax and more opened to listen to your problems.

Subsequently, you must ask the right questions. Asking the right questions will give a positive debate and interaction that will benefit to all of us. Moreover, it can reduce the unnecessary arguments by expressing your skills of communication effectively. In the same time, you must think and prepare before your speak. We should think by using our brains and not depend on our emotion. In addition, you can reduce the usage of verbal cue. We should not use verbal cues too frequently because it will irritate the listeners and causes the listeners to lose interest. Lat but not least, you should avoid careless language. A careless language will create a lot of problem to the consumers.


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Lai Shu Tiing

SHOUT

It is really difficult and hard to express anger in a very positive way. For me, I find that letting it out and explode is the best way although it is not suggest to anybody. Whenever i got mad, I will curse repeatedly and shouting loudly to that person without them knowing it. I just cursed to my own selves. These extremes are not good actually because its better when you express anger in a healthy way so that you can resolve it more quickly and get back on with your life. I just shared it with you guys. Everybody has their own way to express anger.

IZYAN ARINA MAZLAN
B0901417

Sign language

I suddenly remembered there's one day I went to Kuching, Sarawak for holiday. I went there alone to meet my old friends who had moved there. It was three years ago if I'm not mistaken. I stayed at my friend's house and i don't know why this one day, I'm craving for KFC. Maybe because they can't stopped served me with all kinds of Sarawak's weird food and its making my stomach feeling quite...hurm, I not sure how to describe the feeling.

Anyway, to be a very good 'tuan rumah', my friend took me to the town and there's only one KFC store there to be honest. When I entered, i'm quite suprised to see all the workers there are retarded people. I realised when i want to order at the counter and they are making all the sign language which I didn't even understand and I almost burst out but I'm not that mean.

After fiteen minutes I think, I finally managed to get the person understand what I'm trying to order with her friend's help. Maybe she's new. I don't know. But their service is so much better.

What I'm trying to say is eventhough its hard for other people to communicate with them; I think all these people should be given more chances to work at this kind of places cause they are also human being who can really work. and with this oppurtunity, they can mix and socialize with other normal people so that they will not be left out in this environment.

Normal people like us can also learn sign languages so that it's easier to communicate with them.
Its not that hard after all right if you really put the effort.

IZYAN ARINA
B0901417

Jewelries.

Most of you may know my side occupations are, besides a student.
I am a jewelry maker.
Yes, i do beading.
No, i do not do diamonds.
Yes, i do stones.
No, it does not require patience much.
Questions answered. Save your questions next time you see me.

Well, for about 10 months i have worked as a jewelry maker, certainly, i gained something.
normally when my customers come, i will pick a wild guess.
What wild guess?
Well, is she a rich woman who is a collector?
Or well, is she just looking for jewelries for occasions?
Or well, is she just loved her jewelries so much, that she would pay anything for repairing it.

Well, my wild guesses become narrower when i served a male customer.
It is always for their girl friends, wife, proposing purposes, gifts for their friends.
It is mostly about women in their life.

Why women loves jewelries?
Honestly i do not know what the other's may say about this matter.
Most people says that when a woman wears jewelries, normally it is to "seduce" the opposite sex.
Some even say that they wear jewelries so that they attract people's attention.

well, in my opinion, I wear jewelries cause i feel good.
At least my life will not look dull.
When i feel good, i dress properly, instead of jeans and t shirt.
Not to say when i wear jeans , i am in the bad mood.
Just especially when i am particularly hyperly good mood.

Somehow, wearing jewelries (for women) does affect other people's perspective on you.
Take myself as an example.
My friends go shocked when i suddenly dressed really good.
they will ask me if i am going out for a date.
or more like, they will hint me that i attract someone.

Some people wear jewelries because they got to meet clients.
They have to wear decently to present people.
If a person is wearing decently, immediately the clients may just feel demotivated.
They will talk to you differently.

What say you?
Jewelries affecting communications?

-Chong Cheng Yee

The Ugly Truth

Yes, i know. Most people had watched it and keep telling me the "beans" joke, which i am not going to reveal here.
However, i like the title, simple yet ambiguous.
How ambiguous can it be?
Let us see.
Ugly truth maybe saying that the girl has some truth that she even lies to cover it up.
Or, maybe, it can be about cheating.
Or maybe, it can be a story about an ugly girl, which is totally out, because Katherine Heigl is way too pretty.

But the fact is, the title " Ugly Truth" means that some real facts in the world about both genders, that people tends to ignore it.
For example, man just like to judge by appearance.
Women just like to judge by their checklist, well, according to the movie.
( I find it true though)

Yes, people tends to cover up their lies, making up stories.
That, my dear friends, will NEVER work in a relationship.
If you pretend to be something you do not like, you may just end up divorce, break up or even suicides, etc.
Yes you may be happy for a moment, but hey, your expressions give them away.
That is when reading people's face comes in.
However, we are so blinded by the thought that "he/she is the one, i got to grab it"
That is a total lie with yourself.

When a person approach another person for a relationship, do yourself a favour.
Read their lips and their gestures, before you regret.
Because that, my friends, is the ugly truth.

-Chong Cheng Yee

someone else's shoes.

Feeling empathy is to show and to identify with another's feelings. It is to emotionally put yourself in the place of another. The ability to empathize is directly dependent on your ability to feel your own feelings and identify them.

If you have never felt a certain feeling, it will be hard for you to understand how another person is feeling. This holds equally true for pleasure and pain. If, for example, you have never put your hand in a flame, you will not know the pain of fire. Similarly, if you have never felt rebellious or defiant, you will not understand those feelings. Reading about a feeling and intellectually knowing about it is very different than actually experiencing it for yourself.



This are just a few examples and lesson for not being empathy You don't want to be like that right?

IZYAN ARINA MAZLAN
B0901417

Ways to Improve Your Nonverbal Communication Skills

We always hear that actions speak louder than words; however, some of us do not make good use of it. We always put our focus on verbal communication and seldom have the initiative to improve our nonverbal communication and we tend to do last minute preparation for nonverbal communication. Actually, there are several ways to improve your nonverbal communication by using video recorder, digital camera or audio recorder.

When we are using the video recorder, first, we need to locate the video recorder in the right position where we can observe our nonverbal communication. Then, we can start a conversation with our friends for a while. After that, we can stop the recording. Later, we can start to playback the conversation and observe the verbal and nonverbal communication. We can playback for a few times to make sure we can find mistakes that we need take into account and try to improve when there is room for improvement.

Besides usage of video recorder, we also can use digital camera. First, we can ask for help from our friends to take some pictures of us while we are communicating with someone. This will help you to see your body language, facial expressions as well as gestures.

Audio recorder can also be used to evaluate your skills. First, you can start to record your conversation with your friends. After a while, we can stop the recording. Subsequently, we can playback the conversation and listen carefully to the way you communicate with your friends. You may need to pay attention to tone, timing, pace and other sounds.

By using these methods, we can elevate our nonverbal communication skills. This will also help us to find our mistakes and see how you are when performing nonverbal communication.

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Lai Shu Tiing

Causes of Stress in Public Speaking

Public speaking has been very common among college students. However, most of us are very afraid and overly stressful after we are assigned to speak in public. We always try to avoid public speaking. Nevertheless, avoidance will not help us to overcome public speaking. Public speaking can be very stressful and tough if you do not overcome it. We should take our first step to seek and overcome the fear of public speaking.

Now, I would like to share some common causes and ways to avoid stress in public speaking. First, we must trust that public speaking is naturally stressful. We should take it easy and understand that it is just a speech. We must try to understand our major causes of stress during public speaking.Secondly, having the wrong objectives of public speaking will also lead you to be stressful. You must know that your purpose of public speaking is to convince, persuade, motivate and educate your audience. You must focus on your audience’s needs.

Next, trying to accomplish a lot of material will make you become too stressful. You must know that due to time constraint you are not able to cover all your material. You can just give a brief summary during your speech. The audience will ask you some questions if they are interested to know more details. In addition, you should do more practice to speak in public because we know that practice makes perfect. With sufficient practice, you will not be stressed out.

Subsequently, you must try to overcome fear and not fight against it. You must accept your anxiousness and not be too worried. In addition, you should not try to emulate other speakers because every one of us has their own speaking styles. You can learn from them but do not imitate them. You must be comfortable with your own way of speaking style.

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Lai Shu Tiing

THE FACE...

Words. Sentences. Language. all these can be expressed verbally but what makes the whole situation is the tone and the facial expressions. For example, when a person who is afraid of rats sees a rat and when he does he says “oh my god”. That’s sentence he said can give a lot of different meanings, but in this case he says it with a shocked expression and then runs gives meaning the the sentence. He puts it such that he is shocked and scared of the rat. Or when someone says “come here”. If it is put in a high and harsh tone it could mean a person is angry or if put in a normal smiley tone it could mean a person is just calling u to come. The tone and facial expression of a person can mean a lot. Even without saying anything the face can explain various meaning. Without us realizing it people can read us through our faces. Sometimes u wonder, “why does she think she did something wrong when I didn’t say a word to her”, well when someone is angry or upset its not easy to hide. Somewhere the face or the eyes would show. This could make a person feel uncomfortable thinking they done something wrong. Just the face alone can create a lot of misunderstanding among people close to you. -ASHREEN KAUR-

THINK YOUR IN LOVE??

Love love love!! Sometimes when we like a person we assume its love!! Oh my god I think im in love. That is a common line we hear a lot these days. What we do not realize is that there are many kinds of love. Many guys get attracted to girls who are beautiful. This is call EROS LOVE. They usually focus on beauty and sensuality. Another type of love is LUDIC LOVE, this if a form of which love is considered as a game. A ludic lover would not consider the relationship to be serious. STORAGE LOVE is a peaceful and tranquil love. These people search for partner they can share interest and companionship with. PRAGMA LOVE on the other hand is practical and traditional. These type of lovers concentrate on personal qualities ,family and background. MANIC LOVE is an obsessive love which needs constant attention and affection. And finally AGPIC LOVE is compassionate and selfless. This is a love offered without concern for personal reward or gain and will not have expectations that the love would be returned! Therefore before thinking you are in love, do check what kind of love you are in.

-ASHREEN KAUR-