Jewelries.

Most of you may know my side occupations are, besides a student.
I am a jewelry maker.
Yes, i do beading.
No, i do not do diamonds.
Yes, i do stones.
No, it does not require patience much.
Questions answered. Save your questions next time you see me.

Well, for about 10 months i have worked as a jewelry maker, certainly, i gained something.
normally when my customers come, i will pick a wild guess.
What wild guess?
Well, is she a rich woman who is a collector?
Or well, is she just looking for jewelries for occasions?
Or well, is she just loved her jewelries so much, that she would pay anything for repairing it.

Well, my wild guesses become narrower when i served a male customer.
It is always for their girl friends, wife, proposing purposes, gifts for their friends.
It is mostly about women in their life.

Why women loves jewelries?
Honestly i do not know what the other's may say about this matter.
Most people says that when a woman wears jewelries, normally it is to "seduce" the opposite sex.
Some even say that they wear jewelries so that they attract people's attention.

well, in my opinion, I wear jewelries cause i feel good.
At least my life will not look dull.
When i feel good, i dress properly, instead of jeans and t shirt.
Not to say when i wear jeans , i am in the bad mood.
Just especially when i am particularly hyperly good mood.

Somehow, wearing jewelries (for women) does affect other people's perspective on you.
Take myself as an example.
My friends go shocked when i suddenly dressed really good.
they will ask me if i am going out for a date.
or more like, they will hint me that i attract someone.

Some people wear jewelries because they got to meet clients.
They have to wear decently to present people.
If a person is wearing decently, immediately the clients may just feel demotivated.
They will talk to you differently.

What say you?
Jewelries affecting communications?

-Chong Cheng Yee

The Ugly Truth

Yes, i know. Most people had watched it and keep telling me the "beans" joke, which i am not going to reveal here.
However, i like the title, simple yet ambiguous.
How ambiguous can it be?
Let us see.
Ugly truth maybe saying that the girl has some truth that she even lies to cover it up.
Or, maybe, it can be about cheating.
Or maybe, it can be a story about an ugly girl, which is totally out, because Katherine Heigl is way too pretty.

But the fact is, the title " Ugly Truth" means that some real facts in the world about both genders, that people tends to ignore it.
For example, man just like to judge by appearance.
Women just like to judge by their checklist, well, according to the movie.
( I find it true though)

Yes, people tends to cover up their lies, making up stories.
That, my dear friends, will NEVER work in a relationship.
If you pretend to be something you do not like, you may just end up divorce, break up or even suicides, etc.
Yes you may be happy for a moment, but hey, your expressions give them away.
That is when reading people's face comes in.
However, we are so blinded by the thought that "he/she is the one, i got to grab it"
That is a total lie with yourself.

When a person approach another person for a relationship, do yourself a favour.
Read their lips and their gestures, before you regret.
Because that, my friends, is the ugly truth.

-Chong Cheng Yee

someone else's shoes.

Feeling empathy is to show and to identify with another's feelings. It is to emotionally put yourself in the place of another. The ability to empathize is directly dependent on your ability to feel your own feelings and identify them.

If you have never felt a certain feeling, it will be hard for you to understand how another person is feeling. This holds equally true for pleasure and pain. If, for example, you have never put your hand in a flame, you will not know the pain of fire. Similarly, if you have never felt rebellious or defiant, you will not understand those feelings. Reading about a feeling and intellectually knowing about it is very different than actually experiencing it for yourself.



This are just a few examples and lesson for not being empathy You don't want to be like that right?

IZYAN ARINA MAZLAN
B0901417

Ways to Improve Your Nonverbal Communication Skills

We always hear that actions speak louder than words; however, some of us do not make good use of it. We always put our focus on verbal communication and seldom have the initiative to improve our nonverbal communication and we tend to do last minute preparation for nonverbal communication. Actually, there are several ways to improve your nonverbal communication by using video recorder, digital camera or audio recorder.

When we are using the video recorder, first, we need to locate the video recorder in the right position where we can observe our nonverbal communication. Then, we can start a conversation with our friends for a while. After that, we can stop the recording. Later, we can start to playback the conversation and observe the verbal and nonverbal communication. We can playback for a few times to make sure we can find mistakes that we need take into account and try to improve when there is room for improvement.

Besides usage of video recorder, we also can use digital camera. First, we can ask for help from our friends to take some pictures of us while we are communicating with someone. This will help you to see your body language, facial expressions as well as gestures.

Audio recorder can also be used to evaluate your skills. First, you can start to record your conversation with your friends. After a while, we can stop the recording. Subsequently, we can playback the conversation and listen carefully to the way you communicate with your friends. You may need to pay attention to tone, timing, pace and other sounds.

By using these methods, we can elevate our nonverbal communication skills. This will also help us to find our mistakes and see how you are when performing nonverbal communication.

Compiled by,

Lai Shu Tiing

Causes of Stress in Public Speaking

Public speaking has been very common among college students. However, most of us are very afraid and overly stressful after we are assigned to speak in public. We always try to avoid public speaking. Nevertheless, avoidance will not help us to overcome public speaking. Public speaking can be very stressful and tough if you do not overcome it. We should take our first step to seek and overcome the fear of public speaking.

Now, I would like to share some common causes and ways to avoid stress in public speaking. First, we must trust that public speaking is naturally stressful. We should take it easy and understand that it is just a speech. We must try to understand our major causes of stress during public speaking.Secondly, having the wrong objectives of public speaking will also lead you to be stressful. You must know that your purpose of public speaking is to convince, persuade, motivate and educate your audience. You must focus on your audience’s needs.

Next, trying to accomplish a lot of material will make you become too stressful. You must know that due to time constraint you are not able to cover all your material. You can just give a brief summary during your speech. The audience will ask you some questions if they are interested to know more details. In addition, you should do more practice to speak in public because we know that practice makes perfect. With sufficient practice, you will not be stressed out.

Subsequently, you must try to overcome fear and not fight against it. You must accept your anxiousness and not be too worried. In addition, you should not try to emulate other speakers because every one of us has their own speaking styles. You can learn from them but do not imitate them. You must be comfortable with your own way of speaking style.

Compiled by,

Lai Shu Tiing

THE FACE...

Words. Sentences. Language. all these can be expressed verbally but what makes the whole situation is the tone and the facial expressions. For example, when a person who is afraid of rats sees a rat and when he does he says “oh my god”. That’s sentence he said can give a lot of different meanings, but in this case he says it with a shocked expression and then runs gives meaning the the sentence. He puts it such that he is shocked and scared of the rat. Or when someone says “come here”. If it is put in a high and harsh tone it could mean a person is angry or if put in a normal smiley tone it could mean a person is just calling u to come. The tone and facial expression of a person can mean a lot. Even without saying anything the face can explain various meaning. Without us realizing it people can read us through our faces. Sometimes u wonder, “why does she think she did something wrong when I didn’t say a word to her”, well when someone is angry or upset its not easy to hide. Somewhere the face or the eyes would show. This could make a person feel uncomfortable thinking they done something wrong. Just the face alone can create a lot of misunderstanding among people close to you. -ASHREEN KAUR-

THINK YOUR IN LOVE??

Love love love!! Sometimes when we like a person we assume its love!! Oh my god I think im in love. That is a common line we hear a lot these days. What we do not realize is that there are many kinds of love. Many guys get attracted to girls who are beautiful. This is call EROS LOVE. They usually focus on beauty and sensuality. Another type of love is LUDIC LOVE, this if a form of which love is considered as a game. A ludic lover would not consider the relationship to be serious. STORAGE LOVE is a peaceful and tranquil love. These people search for partner they can share interest and companionship with. PRAGMA LOVE on the other hand is practical and traditional. These type of lovers concentrate on personal qualities ,family and background. MANIC LOVE is an obsessive love which needs constant attention and affection. And finally AGPIC LOVE is compassionate and selfless. This is a love offered without concern for personal reward or gain and will not have expectations that the love would be returned! Therefore before thinking you are in love, do check what kind of love you are in.

-ASHREEN KAUR-